Happy New Year!
I just recently read a book called Am I The Reason I’m Not Getting Pregnant? by Roseanne Austin. I found out about this book in a roundabout way, but I’m glad I did.
Roseanne Austin is a Fertility Coach. She focuses on mindset and that basically getting your mind right, in addition to all the physical stuff, is important in the fertility journey.
I’m a firm believer in that. Your mind is a very powerful tool and it can work for or against you.
One of the things that struck me the most in the book was this idea of a Bump Squad.
A Bump Squad is your team of people who have your best interests in mind. It’s the people you surround yourself with that BELIEVE in you and what you are doing. This is anyone from your friends and family, to your doctors and nurses. She said you need to ask “Does this person believe in me?”
The idea is to then only surround yourself with these people. She gave the visual of a velvet rope. And that your bump squad get to join you on the exclusive side of the velvet rope. It doesn’t mean that the other people can’t be in your life, or that you don’t want them in your life, it just means at this point, they don’t get to be in your inner circle on the other side of the velvet rope. They don’t get the bottle service in the VIP area of DA CLUB, BITCHES!
So your brother who doesn’t think what you’re doing is a good idea? Not in my Bump Squad. My aunt who just doesn’t invite me for Christmas? Not on my Bump Squad. Anyone trying to dissuade me from my dream? Booted from the Bump Squad.
This is really hard for me to enforce. I’m a people pleaser by nature. But if the breakup with the lying liar who lies has taught me anything, it’s that I need to not let people bully me or manipulate me. That I’m not a pushover and you don’t get to dictate how I feel or what I do. That I have feelings and I am allowed to express them, whether you like it or not.
It’s kind of empowering!
This feels like a good lesson for everyone. We should only surround ourselves with people who believe in us. Not everyone has to agree with us, but we should surround ourselves with supportive, non-toxic people. It’s just best for all our sanities.
So let’s make 2020 the year that we surround ourselves with the people who believe in us. Let’s enjoy our time on our side of the velvet rope!
Who’s with me in my Bump Squad?
#bumpsquad4life
I’m in. Are we now nicknamed Bumpers?
Bump on! Positivity only from here on out!
Will there be t-shirts for the bump squad?
Oh, there definitely needs to be a t-shirt.
Totally there!
I’m in girl!!! This is such great life advice! Xoxo
I would be HONORED to be part of your Bumpsquad! You are loved and supported by so many – remember that!
I’m in and wearing the shirt! Happy to be part of the Bump Squad. I can play bouncer as well on the days you don’t feel up to it. <3
I’m in!!!! You got this!!! Xoxo ?
Bump Squad… Assemble!
Also, LLWL is an asshole. Just saying.
Girl, count me in. I’ve been down that road. I was biologically unsuccessful, but learned a lot on that emotional journey.
This is a great way of thinking. I know you will have more on the Bump Squad than the Dump Squad. And those on the Dump Squad deserve to be there. You, and only you, get to make choices for your future and your body. Anyone who disagrees can go pound sand, as my Gmom would say.
I’m so bumpin!!!!
I’m in!!!
I’m in.
On your Bump Squad for life, yo!
I’m in! On? Whatever, I’m here for it (and you)!